First off, I just want to say that girls from about the 4th grade on up are out right mean! Forget boys being mean, they will beat each other up and be friends the next day, but girls are just underhanded, sneaky, mean spirited and wicked!
I can speak from first hand experience from having been tortured in junior high, being called names because I began wearing glasses that year, having girls trip me on the basketball court who were on my team...we have all been there probably at least once.
My oldest grand has a heart of gold, she is sweet, kind, gentle (okay, she will push her sister and brother around on occasion & can be stubborn as a donkey), works hard in school, has lots of friends and sadly has been bullied this year by a girl in her class who says she is her friend.
It began right after Christmas when she wore a shirt to school her uncle gave her....the girl had one like it so she hit her and told her to never wear it again. She hasn't, she has been afraid to in spite of my telling her to wear it again and not let the girl have power over her.
I guess this girl has been hitting and kicking her on the playground and at gym as well. She reported it once to the school counselor who said by the time she spoke with the girls, all appeared to be well again.
Now on Friday, the girl and grand go into the school book fair and the girl tells my grand to pick something out and she will pay for it. She did and when the class left, my grand took it with her...carried it right out of the book fair in her hands, playing with it in the open.....
You can see where this is going...yep, the girl said she paid for it, grand believed her and it wasn't paid for. The lady at the book store grabbed it out of her hand, told the teacher about it and now the kids at school (who were her friends) are calling her thief.
She came home on Friday in tears, she told us what happened and her story has not changed. Come on, I know what some of you are thinking, but this is a child who holds adults to higher standards. She has never been in trouble, gets good grades, her teachers all love her and doesn't like to hurt peoples feelings...she will not defend herself because she says that is mean even if others are hurting her.
We go to school yesterday, she is confident, I am with her and telling her no matter what, we will always love and believe in her. She sits down and the tears start rolling down her eyes, she looks at the principal, starts to talk and is so upset...she asks me to tell him...I said no, she had to, it was her story and I wasn't there.
Finally, she tells him what happened, he promises her he will look at everything and get back with us. She walks out and stops dead in the hall, refusing to go to class. I have the school counselor come down...she tries talking to her, she runs to the van and gets inside and has a complete melt down.
After about 15 minutes of the counselor and I talking to her, she gets out, has me walk her into school, hugs me and walks down the hall with the counselor. I guess she sat in the counseling office for 10-15 minutes talking to the counselor about the other girl and the things she does to her. Then she went to class.
When I picked her up yesterday, she was smiling....then when we got in the car, she said....the girl is lying, she won't tell the truth that she said the item was paid for, the principal asked her even if she said it as a joke...the girl denies it. She didn't even look at the principal, she kept her head down the whole time and then she adds, I did look at him, even if I was crying.
She came home, put on her pj's early and asked if she could lay in my bed and draw for awhile with the door closed....this has always been her sanctuary. She likes being in my room because it is dark and quiet and I think it helps her work her problems out in her mind.
She came out later and said, 'Ranny, they are still calling me a thief at school. I didn't steal that, I thought it was paid for or I would have asked them to hold it and asked Papa if he would give me my allowance for it....she has always asked him for $$ if she wants something from the book fair, she doesn't have to steal it.
I am worried about how this will affect her. Now that I heard about the bully girl, I understand why she has been asking me if I will home school her frequently over the last few months.
This situation breaks my heart!
Since I am now home, I am seriously considering home schooling over this incident...anyone want to share how they home school older children?