I am in a bit of a quandry I must say and have been for a few weeks now and felt I could just ignore it and it would go away, but then again, my depression takes over and makes something large out of something so small. Or does it?
I raised 4 sons and never had a girl, so raising 2 girls that are now in the young woman stage of their lives and pre-teenage oft times leaving me scratch my head.
But lately, the comments from one have become hurtful towards me and I don't know why. Is it a girl thing? If I would have treated anyone the way she has treated me lately, I would have had a fat lip!
A few weeks ago an incident at our dinner table happened where she was feeling ill and didn't want to eat, so I excused her from the table but she said it was okay she just wanted to sit for awhile. I told her I would eat her dinner and if she wanted dinner later I would fix her plate.
Hubby comes to the table and asks her where her dinner is and without skipping a beat, she told him...my Ranny is eating it. This didn't bode well with hubby and I explained why I was eating hers instead of making another plate. She looked at him and said, 'I didn't say.' I was in shock and told her what she had said and she once again denied it.
So, am I loosing my mind at this time? Did I imagine this? I could tell by her siblings faces she did say it. What bothered me was how my husband took her word. Just to be honest here, I have never just taken a child's dinner plate for my own!
A few hours later hubby and I got into a disagreement over the way laundry is done and I asked him to help find a workable solution...he doesn't like the clothes folded and put on the table, he doesn't want then folded and put on our bed and the kids fold theres and lets face it....they are kids, their clothes wind up where they put them and that upsets him.
That passes. Today, I took the younger 2 to school and told the oldest we were going walking. My walks are painful and short and she said she wasn't getting out of the car. I did get out, put my headphones in and walked around the school parking lot.
I looked back 1/2 way through my walk and she was behind me, so I asked her if she wanted me to turn my IPOD shuffle off and just talk or tell jokes.
Her reply had me in tears. 'Nope, keep them in you are no fun to walk with you are my grandma and my friends are better.' Really??
We weren't walking 100 miles, we were spending 10 minutes if that walking around a parking lot.
When we back into the car I let her know she hurt my feelings and I also told her I understand her friends mean a lot to her as I was once young, but her comment was unwelcome and hurtful.
I also told her someday her friends will move, they will find other friends, they will get mad and they won't be friends anymore but I will always be there for her as I have in the past and always will be.
I just don't know how to relate to her anymore I guess. I am just extremely depressed between her behavior and hubbies!